Positive Change
Here are a few which have helped bring a positive change in my life:
Smile a lot, be compassionate and respect people
I mean it. It may seem trivial but it is not. I am not a very happy cheerful fellow. I have my lows and can be downright depressed sometimes. But whenever I meet a new person, talk to someone I make it a point to smile nowadays.
Imagine going to a Tea stall run by an old lady. She probably is already having a hard time with her life. There is no need for me to be morose when I am around her. Whenever I go to buy something, even talk to people who don't play an active part in my life I always put up my best cheerful self. It is my small way of spreading happiness in the world. I like to chat for sometime too. Ask how they are and what is going on in their lives.
Most of the people I know automatically smile when they see me. If I am in a really bad mood too after spending hours debugging some code I feel happy after that. Even if it may seem a bit fake to some people this has made a lot of impact in my life.
Added bonus: I always get my food before most people in frequently visited joints. I rarely have to bargain. Most people give me a good deal. They don't try to rip me off. Me, including my 3 other friends stayed as a guest of honor for 2-3 days in a Hotel in Bhutan. All because I went out my way to help the owner with some IT work.
Remove mobile internet
This was another experiment/ lifestyle change I doubted I could ever pull off. I mean I am just like any other guy. I love being with people. I would constantly get pings from other people and spend sometimes hours chatting. But I knew it was taking a lot of time which could be spent on doing things which actually matter.
I started small. Removed WhatAapp. The twang twang sound of new notifications was something I missed at first. Slowly and slowly I grew out of it. I no longer had to wait for people to reply to me. I would talk with people when I was free and not because I was bored. I removed FB messenger after that. I have always been on and off facebook. So it was not something difficult.
Then I did it one day. I did not recharge after my pack ended. I am off mobile net since the last 2-3 months. I can't tell you how much it has changed my life.
I used to spend a lot of time reading about acquisitions on Hacker News, linked in headlines, Flipboard, my own news feed, mails and feed from blogs I follow. I do that now too. But on my home wi fi late at night when I am done with all my work.
I don't have to feel guilty about not replying to people on different chat messengers like earlier. Nor I have to go through tons of useless group notifications which don't add any value to my life.
I have installed Aldiko Ebook Reader instead and whenever I get time I read books on that.
Meet new people whenever and where ever you can
I realized the importance of networking when I was in college. Before that I was this Howard Roark figure from Fountainhead who thought that he would manage to survive without needing the help of anyone. I was too sure of myself. But I changed this approach in college. There I never shied away from meeting new people there and as my life has progressed I have understood the importance of human relationships.
My first job offer was rescinded because I did not join as per the date mentioned on the offer letter.
A friend from college let me stay in his house as I sorted out my shit.
Next day I was in the office of one of the biggest start ups to come out of my college and on the way to meet the co founders a few days later courtesy to another senior.
Another senior who was in some club with me fought with the HR Vice President of the company where I was supposed to join earlier and got my job back.
But again my joining date was postponed. I stayed with a friend from school days for 2 weeks.
During this turmoil period people from my life showed up when I needed them the most. I will forever be grateful for that.
People matter. A lot.
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