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Life Tips
- WORK HARD ~ Yeah,
all those people you see around enjoying all their success, have worked
really hard at some point in their life. Don't agree?! Just stop
reading and think for a moment. Remember all the opportunities that you
missed and all the bad performances of yours, how many of them you could
have been better at, had you worked a little harder, a little more
dedication and focus from your side was all it demanded.
Atleast I
have seen that almost everything I have failed at, and the things that I
have seen people around me succeed at has one key difference : hard
work.
- DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ~ Want to
take that trip to your childhood favorite location, or read that book,
or write that blog. Do it. You are never going to have that free time
ever, unless you create it. And yes, don't let anyone dictate what you should do.
Oh, so I happen to be an engineering student, so what?! Why can't I
study about music, do some art work, or talk of literature.
Okay,
so you happen to not know what you want to do?! Great, nobody knows at
first. People try one thing, if they like it, they do it more. If not,
they try something else.
Let me tell you my story. I take part in
college group discussions. People say I am quite good at it. I also
play basketball sometimes, and I suck at it. But I do both of them
irrespective of what people say, because I want to. In between, I
also write blogs and poems, learn new exciting computer related stuff,
think of new ways to approach any present problem of this society, study
human behavior, and history, and science, and play chess, and table
tennis, read books, do tiny bit of managerial activities in college. And
I may not be the best at any of those. And I don't think any of them is
going to provide any monetary benefits to me. Yet I do them. Why?! Because I want to. Don't do something just because it will provide some benefit to you. Do it because you want to.
- ASYNCHRONOUS IS BETTER THAN SYNCHRONOUS ~ Yeah,
geeky words. In electronics, events can be depend on time, or previous
events. I like dependencies on previous events, that's asynchronous.
Although it's a matter of personal choice, let me justify myself.
When
doing a task, I don't like stopping in between when I am already
enjoying my task, and switch to some other task, because I decided that I
will start studying at 6, or something like at. Whatever you do, enjoy doing that. Let nothing intervene you. Not even time. I like it this way.
But
be careful. When trying this method, take on tiny tasks, and not big
chunks. Don't go on like I will first complete my physics book, then go
on to play for 7~8 hrs, and so on. Much better would be to take small
tasks, say a chapter from the book, or even some sections or a
particular section from that chapter. You will then begin to see the
advantages of this method.
- IT'S OKAY NOT TO BE PERFECT ~ It
took me a real great time to get hold of this. And that's why I would
say it's very important to understand this. I would start studying a
chapter, and I wouldn't move to another one unless I complete each and
every question of that chapter after reading it. I would write a poem or
blog after spending hours, and then I won't publish it.
What I
have seen is that it's much better to leave a thing after spending hours
on that, it's okay if you are imperfect now, switch your mind to
something else for some time, take a break, start something new, and
then come back to your previous work, and you will see that you have got
better ideas for that.
In other context, I would not do a thing,
say I couldn't sing in front of anyone, just because I thought I wasn't
perfect. Or I wouldn't share my ideas thinking they might be bad. Guess
what?! They would be. But you will never have better ideas unless
you speak the ideas that you have right now. Only then people around can
have a discussion on your ideas, and can pin point your flaws. So, stop
being afraid of imperfection. Everything is. Even this answer is.
- TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR BOTH YOUR SUCCESS AND FAILURE ~ Yes,
both of them. Success and failure. Win and loss. Fame, and shame. Most
people that you would see, will grab the credit for every success, but
goes on to blame everyone else for every single bullshit thing going
wrong in their life. They should start taking responsibility for their
failure. How?! Next time you fail at something, silently listen to all
the criticism, good or bad. Don't speak a single thing. That would be
the very first step. Rest your mind will figure out itself.
But
I put this point here for other kind of people. The opposite one. Like
me. One who wouldn't take responsibility for their success, but gladly
do the same if they fail at something. Why?! Why afraid of success?
Let me be blunt but people won't recognise you unless you accept that
you succeeded because of you. You have put all that hard work, all those
extra hours, now taste the glory of that success, don't run away from
it. And take this seriously. If you are someone like this, you will
slowly move towards a state of depression, and lack of confidence. And
your work will suffer more. So, enjoy the success too. There is a good
chance it will pave the way of inspiration for harder work.
- GIVE PEOPLE SOMETHING OF VALUE
~ Accept this fact that you will get something of value, only when you
give something of value. Be it to anyone. Your friend, teacher, parent,
spouse, child. Anyone.
I generally have a lot of value to give to
those around me. Some examples indeed. One of my friend is interested
in and also good at finance. Once I came to know of a financial
competition I couldn't make any sense of through one of the interns I
met at IITB, I forwarded the link to my friend, and it was his words
that "he really enjoyed the stuff". Many a times, good projects come to
me, but I couldn't do them, because of my lack of knowledge in that
field, or lack of time. But that doesn't stop me from introducing these
projects to the people I know, who have the capability for the same!!
Noticed
something?! Don't be afraid of introducing people to people, because
they might make something of value far more than what you could have
made. Rather just do it. What did I get in return? My only internship
till now was introduced to me by my friend, a few friends who nowadays
motivate me for competitive programming are the ones whom I introduced
to this field in the first year, I got selected to represent my college
in the Indian parliament because of two friends, I got my college
project under Research Promotion Cell, thanks to a friend of mine. And
all these friends are different persons.
But why did they care to help me anyway?! Becasue once I did, and the cycle goes on. That's the power of giving something of value. Never ever underestimate it.
- SELECT PEOPLE CAREFULLY YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME WITH ~
Friends are those you get to choose. So, choose them wisely. It's
better to be alone than to be with wrong people. If you are with people
who regularly underestimate you, or don't care about you, it's way
better to leave them behind.
Try to be with people who value
your time, value your knowledge, and yet are always the first to let you
know of where you are wrong, without hesitating for a second. Try
to be with people who want you to become better and be great. Try to be
with people who stand with you in your hard times. Learn from them.
Observe them. Listen to them. And you will become worthier.
- HAVE A THOROUGH ANALYTIC VIEW OF EVERYTHING
~ This is the one I need to practice the most. Many a times, I start
liking the views of a particular person, and then after some time, I
just agree with whatever that person has to say, without analyzing that
thing. And this is very bad indeed.
Once I was reading a history
book, and being a fan of the writer, I agreed with everything. But when I
was telling a friend of mine all this, he asked how come the writer
know all this. Where did he get his facts from? That made me think, and
later I asked my further queries here on Quora.
So, never blindly believe anything. Think why something is true. Have questions!! Which leads to my next point.
- ASK QUESTIONS, A LOT OF THEM
~ Last semester, when I was going for the airport to come back to
college, my sister asked me a lot of questions mid-way. A lot of them.
And that was the first time my mind ticked regarding the value of asking
questions.
Her questions were simple, just about the basic
working of the stuff around me. And being a science major, I should have
easily answered them, but I found that very difficult to do. But then I
asked her for some time, did my study, and came back to her with my
answers. She seemed happy, she learned something new, and she again had
some questions, but she gave me a great thought.
That as we
grow older, we stop asking questions. We start taking things for
granted. Which reduces our curiosity. due to which our mind couldn't get
its proper exercise. And then as elders, we don't value the
questions of our children, we ignore them, or scold them not to disturb
us. And the cycle continues.
So, ask a lot of questions. And also
answer the same for that curious child, that lies within all of us.
Your brain will thank you for that.
- WORK SMART
~ I told you to work hard, right. But that's of no use if not applied
in the right direction. Say tomorrow is your exam, and you are working
hard for some competition of yours six months away. Well, that surely
can wait for a few more days. Or you are building a product, but midway
you started working on body building. That's of no use right now. It
definitely can wait until a prototype for your product is ready.
Work on the most important things. Things that matter. Hard work, when combined with smartness, can fetch you places. But the opposite would just make you wonder why things don't work your way even after putting up so much efforts. Be smart.
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